A view of the Unrealistic Double-Standard Expectation Place on Women

We expect women to work like they don’t have children and raise children like they don’t work!

Society’s expectation for women has become unrealistic although it is our reality. They compare us to our grandmother’s and great grandmothers while we are doing the job of our grandfathers and great grandfathers because our men have dropped the ball and forgot how to be providers. We are not only mothers but the sole providers, the handyman, and the cooks. Statistics show 13.7 million single parents are responsible for 22 million children but the irony of it all is 82% of those single parents are mothers. Mothers who are taken away from the duties of being mother or running off pure fumes because she has worked all day and stayed up all night to be mom to her children and to fulfill the roles that society and the absent father have placed on her.

You see we are expected to raise children to be successful, self-sufficient, members of the society, who can pour back into the economy although we are not given all the tools that are needed to make this happen. We are given broken homes and broken families, broken women, broken men, that sometimes create broken children. Then we are expected in all this brokenness to hold it together, keep it together, and create life. Oh, wait then society turns right around and tell that same women now you need to get out here and work to take care of those children that you had. They blame her when the children have gone wild, joined gangs, and partaken in violence. It’s her fault because her strong mentality which was forced on her because of the absence of the male figure has been described as her pushing him away, not being submissive, or listening, when it is really her holding it down.

While she is holding it down and punching a clock society then infiltrates her home and the mind of her children sending a warped perception through media that you are not doing well or living well if you don’t have the newest Jordan’s, the designer jeans, or the 62” inch screens mounted throughout the house. The house that their mother has worked her hands to the bones or her mind and soul to emptiness just to provide shelter over their heads.

You see the children don’t really understand that when their mother walked out the house into the corporate world, and had to stand up to the corporate man, that her crisp suit and lipstick color didn’t get her to the front of the room and it sure doesn’t keep the target off her back because the man feels like he is superior to the woman. The woman who holds all the answers. So, he creates this perception that she was not dependable enough because her life wasn’t stable enough to support the company and hold down home at the same time. So, because there was a chance that she may have to call off work for a sick kid and the man has planted a seed that her worth is how long she can stay in the office after closing time, she was looked over for the promotion which would have provided her with the raise to take care of the children, the chance for a better life was just given to a man who has decided to leave his children at home with his wife, their mother. Even after the promotion was given and she was looked over, the mom is still their working and building a company to be great without a title because of the mouths she has vowed to feed and the title of mommy that she wears proudly.

This is some of our reality!